Couple of months ago, I was with a group of people talking randomly. Some how the topic about domestic violence comes up. One of the guy explained about a woman that he knows, how her husband treat her very bad, and don’t respect her. He was talking kind of angrily because he couldn’t understand why that woman stays beside her husband. He said, “How stupid she can be to stay there?” I didn’t react or said anything to him about his comment. But I ask to myself this question; who we are to judge something that we don’t know?
Why is so easy for us judge and fix “situation” of other people problems. Things that looks so obvious for us like if you are in a bad relationship “just leave!” Or if you smoke and you have asthma “just quit!” If you have depression “just get out and have fun!” How easily we can find solutions, or judge other people problems, but how hard is for us fix ours. How hard is for us resolve our own problems, and worse, how hard is for us recognize that we have an actual problem.
What seems very obvious for us it might not be that obvious or easy for other people. Yes, they can choose in some degree accept and change the situation, but our job is not judge or try to fix their problems. A truly friend just need to be there to support and help when ever they need us. If they ask for advice then we can give it.
Matthew 7:3-5
3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
Big Hug,
MRM
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